A girl/woman can do whatever she puts her mind to. Family and friends who will help protect you and love you unconditionally are extremely important.
In the regular world, Alice is institutionalized and diagnosed with hysteria. She plunges a needle into her doctor to get away from him. Alice's ship is caught in a storm that nearly kills her crew. Use of the chronosphere almost destroys all of Underland. One comical death.
Time and the Red Queen hug and briefly hold hands.
Insults like "imbecile," "idiot," "ignorant peasant," "stupid," "vile," "bloody," "disappointment."
None in the movie, but like all Disney movies, there's plenty of related merchandise available.